Here’s the first post I am bringing over from the Tumblr page to here. I think it is super valuable, and a new way to look at something pretty common that you may overlook – saying thank you!
Without further ado:
Confession: I am a personal development junkie.
I have been listening to a ton of podcasts lately, which is not that different from the norm for me.
One of them is Chalene Johnson’s Show, and I have a few takeaways that I would love to share with you. The first is about accepting compliments.
It is so easy sometimes, especially (it seems) for women, to dismiss a compliment… For example, “I like your shirt,” “Oh this old thing? blah blah blah…”
You may think that you are being modest, or you may legitimately feel uncomfortable receiving praise.
But one perspective I had never considered was the fact that it can actually be rude to the complimentor to deflect their kind words.
Think about it – they are expressing their opinion, which is positive, about something about you. If you dismiss it, you are basically devaluing their opinion, and telling them they are wrong!
When I was less confident, a mentor of mine at the time told me that any time someone pays me a compliment, the first thing I should do is look them in the eyes and thank them sincerely, and then repeat the compliment three times in my head so that it sticks!
I’ve always thought this was great advice for the person receiving the compliment, but now love it in the frame of reference of the person paying the compliment as well! Chalene says that when we look that person in the eye, say “thank you” and smile, that is like giving that person a gift.
[Tweet “Give your friend a gift and accept their compliment with a smile and gratitude! Via @Mandelicious”]
The moral of the story? Don’t be selfish. When you are complimented, look that wonderful person in the eye, say “thank you,” and then repeat that compliment silently to yourself three times. For both of you!
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