A couple weeks ago, I found myself sad that I wasn’t where I wanted to be professionally… I think it’s because I looked up the age of someone I know who does similar stuff to me online, and discovered she’s five years younger than me, when I thought she was older than me! I asked Tommy (the most confident person I know) if he ever feels bad after comparing himself to someone else, and his advice moved me to tears and made me feel WAY better, so I had to share it with you in case it helps. Read on to see his tips on how to fight social media comparison!
It’s funny – I feel like this comparison game is constant, just changes form. I remember comparing myself to other girls in school, other models on set at different shoots, especially earlier in my career, and now I’m comparing myself to other bloggers and professionals. But, thank goodness one way I know I’m blessed is with a great husband to help me when I’m suffering from “comparison-itis.” Here’s the advice he gave to me about How To Fight Social Media Comparison:
- You you are right now you’re supposed to be this very moment. If your life was different, we would maybe not get to have all of the special times with our family and newborn! We need to treasure these moments because they are fleeting.
- This time as a family helps remind us to embrace the present, and make sure that we enjoy all the parts of the career goal work we do – so we enjoy all parts of the journey.
- People achieve major success at all different times in their lives – perhaps mine is coming later so I can be here for Charlo in this way now.
- Other people have such different lives, positive and negative. They may not have had the same tired mornings making getting things done challenging, or wonderful special times with their loved ones that make the work worth it.
Isn’t that lovely? I hope it makes you feel better, too! Even if just one of the bullet points resonate, I’d say it’s worth your time, don’t you think?
We have been really blessed to spend a ton of time with Charlo while he is so little, and if I was more successful in my career, that would possibly not be a possibility.
I know that on my own, I have felt myself comparing myself to a makeup artist who worked as my assistant on a shoot and is now a much more prolific artist, and I’ve realized that she has focused all of her time on being a makeup artist. I have so many passions and divide my time among them. If I only focused on makeup, I have no doubt I’d be booking more, bigger, and better makeup jobs… But then I wouldn’t have the variety I love, or have written books, or had a podcast, etc!
If you’re interested in more, I have a blog I can send you to that I wrote a long time ago about Impostor Syndrome.
As someone who firmly believes in loving oneself while working to become better, I also want to share links to my book here on my site, and on Amazon, in case you want a framework to reach your goals. That definitely makes comparison easier, right?
Stay tuned for more goodness!